In an age where friendships often form between those of similar ages, I find myself with an extraordinary circle of close companions who span several decades in age. My husband and I, along with our two toddlers, recently embarked on a journey halfway across the United States to visit our dear friends, Sherry and Ken, a couple who are nearly 50 years my senior. Our days were filled with laughter, engaging conversations, and delightful activities like sharing milkshakes and playing dominos. It was during these moments that I realized the profound impact my older friends have had on my life.

Among my cherished companions is Sharane, a vibrant 76-year-old who I consider my best friend. Just last Saturday, we spent the day shopping for the perfect dress, an outing filled with fun and companionship. Another remarkable individual in my life is a 75-year-old former hippie who has transitioned into a financial advisor. Our correspondence often results in stacks of emails filled with wisdom, insights, and life lessons, all of which I treasure dearly.

My journey into these friendships has been serendipitous. Several of my older friends began as clients for a biography project I was working on, where I interviewed grandparents about their life stories. This initial connection blossomed into deep friendships that have enriched my life in unimaginable ways. I even formed a bond with a woman who is the daughter of a dear friend who passed away at the age of 95, further demonstrating how connections can transcend time and circumstance.

What draws me to older individuals? Perhaps it's the profound reservoir of wisdom they possess. When I seek counsel from friends my own age, I often wonder what substantial life lessons they can impart, given our shared life experiences. However, when I turn to my friends who are in their 60s, 70s, and beyond, I'm met with invaluable advice. For instance, when I feel overwhelmed by my small business responsibilities, my 60-year-old friend Stacy reassures me that I can indeed manage it all, helping me identify tasks I might delegate, all while providing a calming presence based on her own extensive experience.

Older friends offer something uniquely specialhope. While I often rely on my peers for empathy regarding the challenges of parenting young children, I look to my older friends for reassurance about the future. Juliette, an inspiring 82-year-old, has raised four children and now enjoys the freedom of her golden years. As she lounges by her daughters pool with a glass of wine, her stories serve as a comforting reminder that the relentless trials of motherhood do eventually lead to brighter days.

Moreover, my older friends serve as incredible role models. They embody a sense of self-acceptance that I deeply admire and aspire to cultivate in myself. In a world that often breeds self-doubt among individuals my age, I find solace in watching my older friends unapologetically embrace their true selves. If they dont like me by now, tough, is a phrase I often hear from my grandmother, who is one of my closest confidantes. This attitude is a refreshing contrast to the insecurities many of us feel, and it emboldens me to embrace my individuality as well.

Additionally, my interactions with these remarkable individuals have taught me the importance of vulnerability. Ive noticed that many young adults struggle to express their emotions openly. I often find myself hesitating to verbally express affection or convey deeper feelings. In contrast, my older friends seem to have mastered this art. They demonstrate love and pride effortlessly, offering encouragement and affection in ways that inspire me to do the same. Do you know how lucky we are to have found each other? Sharane often asks, a sentiment that resonates deeply as we navigate our friendship.

Why are my older friends more accepting of vulnerability? Its likely because they understand the fleeting nature of life. Acknowledging that time is precious, they seize every opportunity to express their feelings and share their experiences. This perspective not only enriches our conversations but also allows me to appreciate the transient nature of life more fully.

Lastly, I find my older friends infinitely more interesting than many of my contemporaries. With decades of life experiences, they possess a wealth of stories, lessons learned, and delightful anecdotes. For instance, just last month, I enjoyed a four-hour coffee date with 87-year-old Fred and his wife, Linda, during which Fred regaled me with tales that spanned his lifetime. His ability to recount stories I had never heard before filled our time together with laughter and joy.

As I reflect on the invaluable relationships Ive built with my older friends, I recognize that they have illuminated my path through life. They provide guidance during challenging times, inspire me to embrace my true self, encourage vulnerability, and share fascinating stories that enrich my world. I look forward to more adventures, more laughter, and more wisdom-sharing as we continue to journey through life together.